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The Brick

A young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street, going a bit too fast in his new Jaguar. He was watching for kids darting out between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw something.

As his car passed, no children appeared. Instead, a brick smashed into the Jag’s side door. He slammed on his brakes and backed the jag back to the spot where the brick had been thrown.

The angry driver jumped out of the car, grabbed a young boy and pushed him up against a parked car shouting, “What was that all about and who are you? Just what the heck are you doing? That’s a new car and that brick you threw is going to cost you a lot of money. Why did you do it?

The young boy was apologetic. “Please mister…please! I’m sorry but i didn’t know what else to do,” he pleaded. “I threw the brick because no one else would stop.”

With tears dripping down his face and off his chin, the youth pointed to a spot between two parked cars. “Its my brother, ” he said. “He rolled off the curb and fell out of his wheelchair and I can’t lift him up.”

Now sobbing, the boy asked the stunned executive, “Would you please help me get him back into the wheelchair? He’s hurt and he’s too heavy for me.” Moved beyond words, the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. He hurriedly lifted the handicapped boy back into the wheelchair, then took out a linen handkerchief and dabbed at the fresh scrapes and cuts. A quick look told him everything was going to be okay.

“Thank you so much,” the grateful child told the stranger, wiping away his tears.

Too shook up for words, the man simply watched the young boy push his wheelchair bound brother down the sidewalk. It was a long slow walk back to the Jaguar. The damage was very noticeable but the driver never repaired the dented side door. Instead, he kept the dent there to remind him of this simple lesson.

Don’t go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention. 

 

Lesson Learned

In any relationship I’ve ever had, whether it was personal or business, there came a moment where I found out everything I needed to know about a person.

That lesson has never failed me. However, the most important part of the lesson is not that we recognize what eventually becomes obvious to us, but what we choose to do about it. 

Relationships of all kinds should be built on trust, respect and support. Significant others? Friends? Business associates? It doesn’t matter. We should expect certain things from the people we become invested in. Are they just using our friendship? Are they saying one thing to us but something else to others in order to make themselves look better in a business environment? Are they there when we need them at home or are they too selfish to see beyond their own needs?

We may not have the opportunity to alter their initial actions but we do have a choice in determining whether we address it directly, walk away from it entirely or allow someone to repeat their actions. Because if we allow it to happen once, it’ll happen again.

People will take what you give them and give what you allow.

Lesson learned.