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Reversing Course

I’ve been walking almost every day, weather permitting, for close to twenty years. I have two routes. One takes me to the park, where there are a couple of different paths to follow and one takes me through the neighborhoods around here. During the past few months I’ve stayed away from the park; there’s just too many people walking too close together. I usually walk the same route through the neighborhoods, occasionally taking some side roads, but every once in a while I reverse my route. That’s where it begins to get interesting.

When I walk my regular route, I see the same homes in the same way every day. Nothing much changes. However, when I reverse direction, I pass the same homes I always do but I see them differently. I’m walking from a different angle, have different views and I begin to see things I never saw or noticed before. My perspective changes simply by reversing course. I see the other side of homes. Strange the way that works.

I think life is like that sometimes. Many of us go through our daily lives in the same way each day; the same routines each morning, the same route to work, the same opinion of people or social issues or what’s going on in the world around us. We sometimes go through our lives robotically, never glancing one way or the other, believing what we think we know, always focused on what’s in front of us and where we have to be.

We never find, or seem to have the time, to reverse our course, and yet, it’s so easy to do.

But what if we did? What if we took a step back or sideways on occasion and tried to see things differently. There’s beauty, and a changing perspective, in a different path though our daily lives. Our destination can be the same but our direction or how we get there might be different. Who knows, maybe even a slight change in direction can alter our destination or thoughts and allow us to find out something special about ourselves or others.

Life is funny like that.

 

I’m Trying Ringo…

I consider myself a pretty patient person who doesn’t get angry often. In fact, the one or two things that really get under my skin relate to matters of disrespect.  It’s been a pet peeve of mine for as long as I can remember and the one thing that will cause me to say something I should probably keep to myself. But sometimes, that’s just not possible.

I have tried not to watch the news very much, as it relates to the coronavirus and believe little of what I might read on social media. Everyone seems to have their own agenda, which shouldn’t surprise anyone. Facts are distorted or adjusted to meet individual agendas or platforms and what should be a coming together for the greater good of everyone has deteriorated into politics at its worst. It was disheartening a couple of months ago. I don’t know what word  I can use to describe it today.

But I’m getting real angry, and that’s a place I rarely allow myself to go. It’s even more rare when I stay there. In fact, I’ve stayed away from writing anything on here because I didn’t want to write about the virus or have it come off as a political statement. I’m pretty much sick of seeing or hearing about it every day. But I originally created this blog to be able to express what I felt regardless of what anyone else thinks. So why not throw down some thoughts. People can always hit the delete button.

Here in New Jersey and in neighboring New York, we’ve been pretty much locked down for almost four months. For the most part,  people here have done what was asked and the numbers reflect their efforts. In the last two weeks, things have begun to slowly open up and when they did there were two or three instances where bars/restaurants didn’t follow specific guidelines relating to crowds so the governor, seeing what happened in other states, pulled back anticipated openings. I have no problem with that except the greater majority was, once again, penalized for the stupidity and irresponsibility of idiots. An example of disrespect.

As I was sitting home all this time, I’ve had to read or view reports of people around the country who were upset because they were shut down for five minutes. People who refuse to simply wear a mask because they feel it infringes on their rights. People attending indoor rallies without masks to cheer for, encourage and stroke the ego of their leader, who, naturally also refuses to wear a mask. I’ve had to listen to state and local politicians who act like lemmings and play follow the leader, choosing to ignore the experts, data, stories of those who became sick and agony of the families who couldn’t be with their loved ones when the died fighting for breath. I’ve watched large groups of people, old enough to know better, play Russian roulette with their lives, just for a few drinks and a night out. But when your supposed leaders set the wrong example this type of behavior is inevitable. An example of disrespect.

There was a story the other day explaining how students in Alabama were having Covid parties. Apparently at least one person in attendance had to knowingly be infected.  When other guests arrived money would be placed into a pot and whomever got the virus first after attending the party, won the money. I didn’t wan to believe that people could be that stupid but authorities in Alabama have not yet refuted the story and in fact confirmed that some young people have confirmed the reports.

Yesterday I watched a video from Diamond Lake in Michigan of a large group of young people dancing close together in the water without masks on. The comment attached to it was written by Michael Stets, who said, “We had our chance as a country to get things under control., but ultimately, we were destined to fail. And that’s because the country is filled with reckless people who care about no one but themselves.” Disrespect.

It’s depressing to think that way, isn’t it? Depressing to think that, after all the images we’ve seen of  bodies stacked up inside refrigerator trailers, overcrowded hospital wards, pleads from health care workers, warnings from families who have lost so much and advice from some of the best minds in the country, we find that the simple task of wearing a face mask, keeping your distance and following specific guidelines for the welfare of everyone is too much to ask. Disrespect.

Instead,  leaders decided to open it all up because five minutes of inconvenience was too much to ask. Let’s ignore the deaths. That’s a small price to pay for a haircut, massage,  spay tan or a meal  that couldn’t be made at home. What’s a few more deaths when you can pack into a club to drink with your friends or go to the gym or grab a movie instead of watching one at home. The leaders will tell you they’re doing it for the business but let’s not kid ourselves, they’re doing it for the vote. Lives be damned. Four or six more years is what’s most important followed by money, depending on what side of the equation you’re on. Disrespect

I’m afraid it’s too late now. If we had a leader who led by example, if we  came together as a country four months ago and decided that, collectively, we would all do the right thing and sacrifice the materialistic things in life so we can all have a life, then we wouldn’t be where we are today. Disrespect.

I’d like to believe in a different outcome but it’s getting harder to get there. I’m reminded of the of words of Samuel Jackson in the movie Pulp Fiction. “I’m trying Ringo. I’m tying real hard to be the Shepherd.”

Unfortunately for all of us, a large segment of the flock is headed in a different direction.

 

 

Remembering

Remembrance Day July 15 2045

A man about 70 years old is sitting in a backyard chatting with his eight year old granddaughter as their family is preparing for other family members to arrive.

Grandpa, did we celebrate Remembrance Day when you were my age?

No, not when I was your age. I was closer to your mom and dad’s age. This day has only been a national holiday for a little over twenty years, w,ell before you were born.

Mom and Dad say we get together because of a bad virus that spread all over the world and we remember so we don’t forget. Why do we want to remember a virus that got lots of people sick?

Well, it’s not so much the virus we remember but those who were most affected by it. We remember the people who didn’t get better and the people who helped us get through that time.

You mean like doctors and nurses?

Yes, like doctors and nurses but so many more who risked their own health so that others would remain safe. People like first responders, police officers, firefighters, and those in the military. There were so many.

They’re always the heroes, right?

Yes, they are, but there were many other people who put their own health at risk so the rest of us could live our lives safely at home. Before that time, we never gave much thought to truck drivers or people who worked in food stores as heroes, but those drivers transported food to the stores, even though it was risky. And the people who worked at those stores showed up everyday so that the rest of us were able to purchase food.
Teachers made sure their students continued to learn, people who worked in pharmacies made sure people continued to get their medicine,  restaurants stayed open so that some people could order food if they couldn’t get to the grocery stores. Maintenance people made sure the hospitals stayed clean and those who worked in banks kept coming in so people could get money if they needed it. I’ve probably not mentioned nearly as many heroes as there were during that time.

So that’s what today is about?

Partly, yes. We want to remember all those who lost someone and we want to give thanks to those who helped us get through that period of time.  We don’t ever want to forget any of them.

Do all countries celebrate this day?

Well, a few other countries remember this pandemic in their own way, but they don’t call it Remembrance Day since that name means something different for other countries.

Mom and Dad said things changed after the virus. Did they change a lot?

For many, yes. Others just went back to the same routine and the life they lived before this happened.

What kind of things changed?

Well, you know we lost our way of life for a while; our freedom to go where we wanted when we wanted. To see and hug  the people we love the most. You really don’t know how much you miss something until it’s been taken away from you. Then you realize you miss it even more than you could have imagined.
People used to live very busy lives. Many families never had dinner together, were pulled in different directions and missed family celebrations or birthdays, because of commitments they thought were important.

People really missed birthday parties and celebrations?

Sadly, yes. But a strange thing happened after this was over. Some people came to understand what was really important in life. That you can’t get some days back. There’s only one of them and when you miss it, it’s gone forever. Just like people. Unfortunately, some people learned that the hard way.

So people changed?

Like I said ,some did. But not all. You see, during that time you really couldn’t go anywhere and families were forced to spend a lot of time together. So instead of rushing around with other commitments, they went for walks, played games, ate together, talked a lot more, went for bike rides, read books, watched movies, cooked meals together and just hung out. They had time to make time for each other. Sometimes they got on each others nerves, but when it was over and they were able to do the things they did before, some realized they would miss what they had during the time they were forced to stay home. They decided they wanted more of their down time and less of the craziness they had before. So they changed the way they lived their lives. They made compromises and adjustments so they could have the best of both worlds. They realized it was easy to do if they just focused on what was most important to them.
But like I said, not everyone felt them same way.

Did our family change?

Eventually yes, but it took a little time, which was probably true of most people.

Mom and Dad said people who used to work in offices had to go in everyday. That must have been weird for kids. I couldn’t imagine not having mom or dad home almost everyday.

Well, it wasn’t weird before the virus. In fact, that was pretty standard. But two things happened. People realized they could work just as efficiently from home and be able to spend more time with their families. And companies realized if they allowed that to happen without it affecting their business their employees would be happier and they could cut down on the amount of office space they needed and save some money on rent in the process. So there was a compromise of sorts. Some people began working in the office one to three days a week on rotating shifts. Not all jobs could do that, of course, but quite a bit more than people realized just a few months earlier.

So the virus wasn’t all bad?

Well, for some it was terrible. Many people lost family members and some nurses and doctors had a tough time healing after what they experienced. But people also became kinder to one another. If you went for a walk during that time, people who were strangers would wave to you and ask if everyone was okay. If someone needed help, they received it. People sang, and danced, told jokes, made crazy videos and raised money for those who were less fortunate and needed support.
So to answer your question,  there was some good that came out of something that was bad.

That happens a lot doesn’t it.

Yes, that happens a lot, if we pay attention and just look hard enough.

For several minutes, the little girl said nothing, looking past the people who started to arrive. Finally, she asked her grandfather if he thought  a virus like that could ever happen again.

He hesitated before answering, putting his arm around her and holding her close.

It’s possible, I suppose, though we’re much better prepared in case it ever happens again. But if that period of time taught us anything, it was to live in the moment and not worry so much about tomorrow. And our moment is coming through the door as we speak. Your cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents are all here. How about we go remember and celebrate this day with them.

The little girl looked up at her grandfather and smiled.  I think I’m going to give them all big hugs so they know how much I love them.

The grandfather pulled the little girl close, hugged her tightly and whispered softly in her ear.

I think that’s a great idea.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Getting Up To Speed

Bob from http://www.oldmainer.wordpress.com wrote about what we’ve all been going through and what the future may look like as we move forward. It’s one of the better things I’ve read recently. Since Bob, according to him, was born in the 30’s, he has seen and lived though a few things some of us haven’t. His insights, wisdom and humor are always a good and enjoyable read. As evidenced by these words, he is also a talented writer.
Stay well.

oldmainer

Another day gone, but who’s counting.  Well, actually, I am.  And you are too.  Come on. Admit it.  You are watching the edicts and, like riding in an elevator, watching our seclusion rise to another level.  A couple of weeks is turning into another month, and who knows what will happen then.

We are all thinking ” I can’t wait for this to be over so we can return to normal”.  Well, guess what.  I don’t think there is a normal anymore.  At least not the one we remember.  The one we had a few weeks ago.  Too much has happened. Too much has changed.  Lives have been rearranged.  Lifestyles have been altered.  When this is over, and it will be, sometime, we will instinctively hold onto that which we have adapted to that has improved or favorably made a difference.

Every day we all see the doom and gloom…

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Road Trip-Disney World

As a longtime Bruce Springsteen fan, I learned many years ago that there are two camps. You either like him and his music or you don’t. I’ve never heard anyone say, yeah, he’s just ok.
I’ve found the same holds true with Disney, You either enjoy going there or you don’t. For many I think it’s impossible to be a take it or leave it type of person with Disney. Some people are made for it and some are not.

Look, Disney isn’t for everyone. It’s not. You have to believe. You have to have the mindset of a child, not be bothered by ridiculous crowds, brutal heat during  summer months and holidays, long lines, being cramped into shoulder width space during fireworks, long lines, exorbitant pricing, ridiculous crowds, and in your face marketing and commercialization. You have to be flexible, overlook and understand irritable kids, (most of whom are not your own), not blink at the price of a burger or drink, be patient with the transportation system and be willing to plan days and times for rides. Did I mention long lines and ridiculous crowds?

So why go? That’s a good question. One that everyone who enjoys Disney answers for themselves. You really do have to see it through the eyes of a child and not through the logical brain of an adult because logical adult brains would scream at you to stay away. But in some strange way, if you approach and plan it well, it can be a blast. For as much commercialization as Disney is rightfully accused of, they do so much well. Considering the number of people who move through the parks on a daily basis, I’m amazed it runs as well as it does the majority of the time.

When we went in November with one of our daughters, her husband and two young granddaughters, we caught the last few days of the wine and food festival at Epcot, which was a lot of fun. Crowded, but fun. The parks were being decorated for Christmas so we also got to experience that for the first time and it was really special to see. The music, the snow falling around you at night as you walk through lighted streets in different parks. Yes, it was crowded. But if you have the ability to overlook some things and focus on the magic through the eyes of children, it becomes very special.

Here are just a few photos of the different parks.

Outside of Magic Kingdom.

Hanging With a Friend in Animal Kingdom.

Boardwalk At Night

Castle During Fireworks Night (yes the crowds are crazy)

Christmas Tree In Hollywood Studios

 

Main Street After Fireworks

Making A Gingerbread Carousel

    

With The Following Ingredients

For me the best of both worlds would be walking the parks with Springsteen playing throughout. But I realize I can’t have everything I want,  so I’ll settle for Disney music, hundreds of characters and princesses,  smiles on the faces of children and Dean Martin singing Marshmallow World.

Disney is not for everyone and it doesn’t make you a bad person for not wanting to come. Just leave the bitter beer faces at home. You’ve been forewarned. My public service announcement is now complete.

You’re welcome.

The Great American Read

PBS has just finished their Great American Read program with the final results airing last evening. Readers were given a list of 100 books, from contemporary to classic and asked to vote as many times as they liked, for their favorites. Over four million voted were cast with the results listed below. The voting was close in some areas but the winner, To Kill A Mockingbird, led from beginning to end.

I was a little disappointed that my all time favorite,The Great Gatsby, finished in 15th place. Must have been the ballot stuffers that pushed it down and out of the top five. The list is pretty interesting, though I have to wonder how seriously I should take this if Fifty Shades go Grey is on the list. I mean, seriously?

Anyway, here is the list. For all I’ve read, it appears there is so much more out there to read.

Is your favorite on the list? Do you agree with the top five or ten?

Enjoy…and keep reading!

P.S. I wonder why The Bible didn’t make the list.

 

To Kill a Mockingbird cover

Best Loved

1

To Kill a MockingbirdHarper Lee

Outlander (Series) cover

Finalist

2

Outlander (Series)Diana Gabaldon

Harry Potter (Series) cover

Finalist

3

Harry Potter (Series)J.K. Rowling

Pride and Prejudice cover

Finalist

4

Pride and PrejudiceJane Austen

The Lord of the Rings (Series) cover

Finalist

5

The Lord of the Rings (Series)J.R.R. Tolkien
Gone with the Wind cover

6

Gone with the WindMargaret Mitchell
Charlotte's Web cover

7

Charlotte’s WebE. B. White
Little Women cover

8

Little WomenLouisa May Alcott
The Chronicles of Narnia (Series) cover

9

The Chronicles of Narnia (Series)C.S. Lewis
Jane Eyre cover

10

Jane EyreCharlotte Brontë
Anne of Green Gables cover

11

Anne of Green GablesLucy Maud Montgomery
The Grapes of Wrath cover

12

The Grapes of WrathJohn Steinbeck
A Tree Grows in Brooklyn cover

13

A Tree Grows in BrooklynBetty Smith
The Book Thief cover

14

The Book ThiefMarkus Zusak
The Great Gatsby cover

15

The Great GatsbyF. Scott Fitzgerald
The Help cover

16

The HelpKathryn Stockett
The Adventures of Tom Sawyer cover

17

The Adventures of Tom SawyerMark Twain
1984 cover

18

1984George Orwell
And Then There Were None cover

19

And Then There Were NoneAgatha Christie
Atlas Shrugged cover

20

Atlas ShruggedAyn Rand
Wuthering Heights cover

21

Wuthering HeightsEmily Brontë
Lonesome Dove cover

22

Lonesome DoveLarry McMurtry
The Pillars of the Earth cover

23

The Pillars of the EarthKen Follett
The Stand cover

24

The StandStephen King
Rebecca cover

25

RebeccaDaphne du Maurier
A Prayer for Owen Meany cover

26

A Prayer for Owen MeanyJohn Irving
The Color Purple cover

27

The Color PurpleAlice Walker
Alice's Adventures in Wonderland cover

28

Alice’s Adventures in WonderlandLewis Carroll
Great Expectations cover

29

Great ExpectationsCharles Dickens
The Catcher in the Rye cover

30

The Catcher in the RyeJ.D. Salinger
Where the Red Fern Grows cover

31

Where the Red Fern GrowsWilson Rawls
The Outsiders cover

32

The OutsidersS. E. Hinton
The Da Vinci Code cover

33

The Da Vinci CodeDan Brown
The Handmaid's Tale cover

34

The Handmaid’s TaleMargaret Atwood
Dune cover

35

DuneFrank Herbert
The Little Prince cover

36

The Little PrinceAntoine de Saint-Exupéry
The Call of the Wild cover

37

The Call of the WildJack London
The Clan of the Cave Bear cover

38

The Clan of the Cave BearJean M. Auel
The Hitchhiker's Guide to The Galaxy cover

39

The Hitchhiker’s Guide to The GalaxyDouglas Adams
The Hunger Games (Series) cover

40

The Hunger Games (Series)Suzanne Collins
The Count of Monte Cristo cover

41

The Count of Monte CristoAlexandre Dumas
The Joy Luck Club cover

42

The Joy Luck ClubAmy Tan
Frankenstein cover

43

FrankensteinMary Shelley
The Giver cover

44

The GiverLois Lowry
Memoirs of a Geisha cover

45

Memoirs of a GeishaArthur Golden
Moby Dick cover

46

Moby DickHerman Melville
Catch-22 cover

47

Catch-22Joseph Heller
Game of Thrones (Series) cover

48

Game of Thrones (Series)George R. R. Martin
Foundation (Series) cover

49

Foundation (Series)Isaac Asimov
War and Peace cover

50

War and PeaceLeo Tolstoy
Their Eyes Were Watching God cover

51

Their Eyes Were Watching GodZora Neale Hurston
Jurassic Park cover

52

Jurassic ParkMichael Crichton
The Godfather cover

53

The GodfatherMario Puzo
One Hundred Years of Solitude cover

54

One Hundred Years of SolitudeGabriel García Márquez
The Picture of Dorian Gray cover

55

The Picture of Dorian GrayOscar Wilde
The Notebook cover

56

The NotebookNicholas Sparks
The Shack cover

57

The ShackWilliam P. Young
A Confederacy of Dunces cover

58

A Confederacy of DuncesJohn Kennedy Toole
The Hunt for Red October cover

59

The Hunt for Red OctoberTom Clancy
Beloved cover

60

BelovedToni Morrison
The Martian cover

61

The MartianAndy Weir
The Wheel of Time (Series) cover

62

The Wheel of Time (Series)Robert Jordan / Brandon Sanderson
Siddhartha cover

63

SiddharthaHermann Hesse
Crime and Punishment cover

64

Crime and PunishmentFyodor Dostoyevsky
The Sun Also Rises cover

65

The Sun Also RisesErnest Hemingway
The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time cover

66

The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-TimeMark Haddon
A Separate Peace cover

67

A Separate PeaceJohn Knowles
Don Quixote cover

68

Don QuixoteMiguel de Cervantes
The Lovely Bones cover

69

The Lovely BonesAlice Sebold
The Alchemist cover

70

The AlchemistPaulo Coelho
Hatchet (Series) cover

71

Hatchet (Series)Gary Paulsen
Invisible Man cover

72

Invisible ManRalph Ellison
The Twilight Saga (Series) cover

73

The Twilight Saga (Series)Stephenie Meyer
Tales of the City (Series) cover

74

Tales of the City (Series)Armistead Maupin
Gulliver's Travels cover

75

Gulliver’s TravelsJonathan Swift
Ready Player One cover

76

Ready Player OneErnest Cline
Left Behind (Series) cover

77

Left Behind (Series)Tim LaHaye / Jerry B. Jenkins
Gone Girl cover

78

Gone GirlGillian Flynn
Watchers cover

79

WatchersDean Koontz
The Pilgrim's Progress cover

80

The Pilgrim’s ProgressJohn Bunyan
Alex Cross Mysteries (Series) cover

81

Alex Cross Mysteries (Series)James Patterson
Things Fall Apart cover

82

Things Fall ApartChinua Achebe
Heart of Darkness cover

83

Heart of DarknessJoseph Conrad
Gilead cover

84

GileadMarilynne Robinson
Flowers in the Attic cover

85

Flowers in the AtticV.C. Andrews
Fifty Shades of Grey (Series) cover

86

Fifty Shades of Grey (Series)E.L. James
The Sirens of Titan cover

87

The Sirens of TitanKurt Vonnegut
This Present Darkness cover

88

This Present DarknessFrank E. Peretti
Americanah cover

89

AmericanahChimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Another Country cover

90

Another CountryJames Baldwin
Bless Me, Ultima cover

91

Bless Me, UltimaRudolfo Anaya
Looking for Alaska cover

92

Looking for AlaskaJohn Green
The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao cover

93

The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar WaoJunot Díaz
Swan Song cover

94

Swan SongRobert R. McCammon
Mind Invaders cover

95

Mind InvadersDave Hunt
White Teeth cover

96

White TeethZadie Smith
Ghost cover

97

GhostJason Reynolds
The Coldest Winter Ever cover

98

The Coldest Winter EverSister Souljah
The Intuitionist cover

99

The IntuitionistColson Whitehead
Doña Bárbára cover

100

Doña BárbáraRómulo Gallegos

 

Double Edged Laughter

Interesting headline, don’t you think? So what was the first thought that came into your head when you read it? Come on, be honest. How about the second thought?

The real story behind this sports headline from several years ago was that Alex Rodriquez (A-Rod) hit a homer, (goes deep) and the Yankees pitcher, Chien-Ming Wang, (Wang) was injured running the bases in the same game. Did the newspaper intentionally print a suggestive double entendre headline? I’m sure they did. Did they accurately report the facts? Absolutely.

But here’s the thing. There were people who read that headline, like me, and laughed at the creativity and fun you can have with language, while others rolled their eyes, found it distasteful and hid it from the kids. I sometimes wonder what leads us to our individual reactions.

Personally, I can trace mine back to my mother. She wasn’t exactly June Cleaver. (Sorry, some of you may not remember this all American mother from the 50’s). She was different, someone who wasn’t afraid to say what she was thinking, even if those thoughts made some people blush. My mother didn’t really swear. She’d occasionally use the word hell or ass in a funny way but not in general language and nothing beyond that. Instead, she preferred using the double meaning of words in a humorous way. Sort of like the headline above.
She was funny. She loved to laugh and she loved seeing others laugh, which is why there were always people around her at a party. She loved hearing a good joke as much as telling one and if it was a bit racy, that was fine with her. She taught me about the power of humor early on, how it’s important to be able to laugh at yourself, how it can bring people together, the broad scope of it and how to play with the language in a fun and sometimes irreverent way. She had few boundaries and didn’t worry about who might be in the room. If someone was offended, she’d laugh and say they had “delicate ears.”

I was young when we started sharing jokes. If I heard a good one, I couldn’t wait to come home and tell her. I would watch as she made people laugh by twisting words into different meanings. My mother was Italian but father’s side of the family was very English and more conservative.  I can still see my very conservative Aunt Lydia blush at a story my mother was telling and laugh so hard her face turned red and her eyes watered. I can see my Aunt Sadie, whose lips never came near a curse word in her life, laugh so hard she couldn’t catch her breath, which in turn made me laugh just as hard. It was suggestive,  harmless fun.

Would all these relatives and friends be better people/christians/parents/spouses/aunts/uncles/cousins,  if they turned away from her suggestive humor and questioned her parenting abilities? Would my brother and I be better human beings if we never heard those jokes? Would we have been kicked out of Catholic school, the church and  not allowed to be altar boys for as long as we were if , God forbid, the priest and nuns knew of this “sinful” humor? Seems to me we grew up pretty well, married great ladies and raised terrific children. I don’t think anyone was scarred by her brand of humor and the jokes we heard or she told us.

As far as I know, laughter that wasn’t mean or hurtful never scarred anyone.

I just know that when I think of her, I smile. When I remember the irreverence of her stories and language, I laugh. Humor had few boundaries for her. She was a good person who enjoyed laughter and loved  sharing that laughter with others.

I would say that’s a life pretty well lived.

 

 

 

 

 

Intercourse

We always enjoy visiting Amish country around Lancaster, Pa. While retail outlets, hotels, entertainment venues and restaurants of every kind have taken away some of the simplicity and quaintness during the past thirty years, it still remains a peaceful, pretty place, as long as you where to go.

Pennsylvania Dutch Country has towns with unique names, (including the one below), which the retailers seem to have fun with.

During our last visit, I took some photos of the t-shirts for sale in some of the stores. I wonder what the Amish must think.

And yes, the town of Intercourse is actually between the towns of Blue Ball and Paradise. And yes, I own that baseball hat.

How could I not?

Carter

It was the end of the school day and the second grade class I was a substitute for that day was packed up and waiting to be called for their individual buses. Some were talking, some were playing games and some were showing off a bit, as second graders sometimes do.

When I looked over at Carter, he had a piece of construction paper out and was drawing what looked to be a card. Curious, I walked over and asked him what he was making. He told me it was a card for his mom. I asked him if it was for a special occasion, her birthday or something else but he just shook his head, smiled a little and said, “I just want to make her a card, but I don’t know what to write.”

I kneeled down next to him and asked him what he wanted to say. He looked at me and said, “I want to thank her for what she does for me.” I told him that was nice of him and maybe he can think of two or three things to write that stand out the most. He turned away from me, stared out the window and said, “She does everything for me. I don’t know how to write that.”

Before I could answer him or suggest some words, his bus was called and he had to leave. As I was driving home behind a school bus, I was wondering how his card would turn out and what he might write. Then the school bus stopped and I saw Carter step off, run over to a young woman, wrap his arms around her waist and press his head against her.

Maybe he finished the card that night, maybe the next day. Maybe he found the words he needed or maybe he’s still working on it. I’m not sure. But I smiled when I saw him hug his mom, not because he wanted to write that card or how his words made me feel. I smiled because…

Carter was home.